It might sound silly or incredibly simple, but you should just be yourself. In a world of smoke and mirrors we must show our diversity and make everyone feel welcome.
I know what you’re thinking too: “Well thank you, Captain Obvious! What else can I do, but be myself?”
Seriously though, in a world where social media makes us think women are waking up with with perfectly applied makeup and styled hair, we need more honesty. The women we see in these images know just how much work it is and one of the reasons they hide it is because they don’t want to seem like complainers or to bore us with the details.
It’s true…the hard work isn’t much fun to document or watch. Would you want to watch someone paint your walls or just see how great it looks after they’re done? We want the glamourized version that looks effortless!
Unfortunately, this gives us the impression that we should be capable of having the same lifestyle even though most women wouldn’t have a good reason to wear so much makeup every day.
BE YOURSELF: ADVICE FROM A PHOTOGRAPHER
So it puts stress on you. Just keep in mind that the pressure isn’t placed onto you by others as much as it is by yourself. No one is looking at you and thinking you should be wearing more or trying harder. It’s a battle going on in your mind.
Just be yourself. You’re beautiful, gorgeous, and amazing. As a photographer I’ve met all sorts of women. Everyone looks different and that’s what’s so great. The moment you try to look like everyone else you are simply begging to be compared to those same people. You have no comparison so just be your beautiful self!
That’s why I don’t look at the work of other photographers so that I can compare. I look in admiration, but I don’t feel like I need to create the same thing as them. They’re already doing a great job and the world doesn’t need more of the same. The world needs our diversity!
When everyone is different, there can actually be more acceptance since we won’t be creating “teams”.
In terms of makeup…if you really…really feel like you need to do something then I’d recommend rocking some eyeliner and mascara. Those are the aspects of a face I look at first and the most. Trust me!
Jonathan How is the photographer behind Made by Ten and calls Milton his home. He specializes in creating beautiful, creative portraits of real women. He uses photography (and this blog) to help them build confidence and love for themselves and creates artistic images for their homes and offices. You can see him driving around the Greater Toronto Area (GTA) in Ontario, Canada from portrait to fashion shoot and back again.